I thought I would take some time to talk about how we’ve been handling the move with our
turkeys kids. Mason and Cooper have been “in the know” since Jeremy’s interview back in April.
We introduced the idea to them that there was a possibility of moving to another state. There was some push back at that point – sadness about leaving friends and family and questions about what life would be like in a new house. We made sure to listen to their questions and concerns so that they felt a part of the process. The last thing we wanted was for Mason and Cooper to just be told one day that we were moving without any warning at all. Jeremy and I never really talked about how we would handle it. We just did what came naturally for us. We’re an open family and don’t like to keep things from each other, so it was natural for us to talk about it.
When we hadn’t heard from the firm in Providence for a while, talk about the move was put on the back burner. Jeremy and I were certainly anxious about it all and didn’t want to pass that anxiety onto the kids. Life went on, and we tried not to think about it. But when the call finally came, it was a joyous day! We included the kids in the celebration. Jeremy and I wanted them to understand how exciting this was – not only for Daddy, but for all of us. We included them in the house hunt and have asked for their help with packing as well. The entire time we have branded it as an adventure, and that mode of thinking has really helped get them excited about it.
I won’t lie. There have been some tough moments. Saying goodbye to teachers and friends. Not getting to go to summer camp. Having to pack up beloved toys for a little bit. One of the hardest moments for me was when Mason was writing a note to her best friend on the last day of school. Right in the middle, she turned over the paper, pushed it away and put her head down on the table. When I asked what was wrong, she said, “It’s just making me too sad to write this. I don’t want to leave Maeve.” It broke my heart. We had a long conversation right then about how it was ok to be sad. I told her how sad I was to be leaving my friends, and we consoled each other. Then I turned the conversation around to talking about what she was excited for in Rhode Island. I asked her how long it took for her to befriend Maeve when school started last year and assured her that it will be like that again at her new school. (At least, I hope it will happen quickly!)
The key I have found is to let Mason and Cooper know it is ok to be upset, and it is ok to be excited even if it means leaving our loved ones behind. And as adults, we are going through many of the same emotions – excitement, nervousness, uncertainty, joy, sadness, even fear. We’re all in this together, though, and I have faith we will grow closer through this journey. If we continue to be open about it and talk to each other, we’ll get through the tough moments and come out stronger on the other end.