Who is a mom you admire? What quality of hers can you live out today?
I definitely admire my own mom. She is a great woman and mother, and I learn a lot from her. It’s funny – I actually feel closer to my mom now that we’ve moved away. Now that may sound weird, but it’s true. Living only an hour from her, we would see each other once a week usually – for lunch or a short visit or something. But now that we live 8 hours from her, our time together is for longer visits. When she is here, she really gets a feel for our every day life. She melds right in and rolls with it all. I appreciate that so much. And because she is with us for longer periods of time, she actually sees us as a family, rather than the couple of hours of all of us putting on our best faces like before. My mom recently sat me down after a long weekend and gave me some advice.
1) Take care of yourself. Exercising is really important to mental health.
2) Treat your kids equally, no matter if one is being better than the other on any specific day.
3) Don’t be so hard on yourself.
I really took it all to heart. My mom has been through a lot in her years, and for her to come out on the other end the way she has… well, that’s just very admirable in my book. I love her so much, and I hope one day I can parent my grown-up children with the same wisdom that she has with me and my sister. (There’s that whole “wisdom” thing again. It’s becoming my constant through this whole challenge. I’ll have to reflect on that at the very end of it all.)
Thank you, Mom, for being there for me and for not laughing too much when I call about my exasperating kids and their antics!