Find Good In Every Day

One mom's attempt at finding good in every day of this chaotic world.

Giving Thanks – Day 1 November 18, 2012

Filed under: Daily Blog — Robin @ findgoodineveryday @ 6:22 am

I promised myself a couple of weeks ago to be really grateful this month.  Although it shouldn’t be just for a month.  It should be all the time.  When I’m stuck in a rut and feeling sorry for myself and wondering why life is so hard, it usually only takes a few minutes for me to realize how selfish I am being and how many other people have it much harder than me.  But it is difficult to see beyond yourself and your circumstances all the time.  It’s not always easy to put yourself in other people’s shoes.  You need strength to truly empathize.

And today, as I begin my week of Giving Thanks, I am thankful for strength… and courage.  Both have come in many forms over the past year.  From having the strength and courage Jeremy and I both had leaving jobs in which we were comfortable and stable to Mason and Cooper finding the strength and courage to walk into their new schools on the first day not knowing a single kid.  We have faced many challenges with our new life in Rhode Island.  We miss our family and friends.  We miss the familiarity of our old house and neighborhood.  We miss feeling stable.  But through missing all of that, we have found our strength…  and our courage.  We are breaking new ground, and it is feeling good.  And when times get tough, as they always will, we first acknowledge that we can get through it; that we are strong enough to get through it.  And then we remind ourselves that we are not alone in our troubles; and that we should actually be grateful that our troubles are not worse at this point.  I’ve been working hard to instill these ideals in the kids too.  I want them to focus on all that they DO have versus all that they think they still need.  It’s hard when you’re battling Christmas commercials and toy magazines in the mailbox every day.  So I need to be the role model.  I have to summon all the strength I have built over the years and just be thankful for what I do have rather than what everyone else around me has.  It’s hard to not show your jealousy.  It’s hard to not want for more.  But it is even harder to teach what you can’t preach.

Therefore I’m grateful for the strength and courage that has gotten me this far in life and for where they are leading me on this new open road.


4 Years of Blogging November 4, 2012

Filed under: Daily Blog — Robin @ findgoodineveryday @ 3:42 pm

It is pretty crazy to think that 4 years ago I started this blog.  Where did the time go?  I started this blog as the crazed mom of a 3-year-old daughter and 10-month-old son.  I was feeling overwhelmed at the time and wanted to keep reminding myself that while every day is not good, there is something good in every day.  Now 335 posts later, here I am as the busy mom of a 7-year-old daughter and 4-year-old son.   So much has changed in 4 years, and I think I’ve shared most of that on this blog.  From job changes to parenting challenges to lifelong memories, this blog has stood as my journal and scrapbook all at the same time.

As I often like to do with old journals, scrapbooks or photo albums, let’s take a stroll through memory lane.  I’ve compiled some of my favorite posts below.

The Need For Good In Every Day – Of course, this is one of my faves since it was the one that started it all.  It’s funny how the little things that really made my day back can still make my day today.

Kid-isms – Kids do say the darndest things!  Reading this one again reminded me that I really need to write down more of what they say.

Happy With What We Have – This one especially caught my attention after a meeting at Cooper’s school the other night.  Other moms were talking about their struggles…  with their kids, with paying tuition, with life… and I left with my heart aching for them, but also feeling very blessed.  It’s a good reminder to thankful.  I’m thinking of another Thanksgiving/November challenge of what I’m thankful for every day.

Mothers and Daughters Part 2 – I love watching Mason grow up through pictures.  This story reminds me of our special bond.

What’s Wrong With These Pictures? – Looking at this one, I laughed out loud.  Still to this day, High School Musical is one of the only movies they can agree on.  Cooper is in a scared phase right now so if there is any bad guy at all, he says he doesn’t want to watch it.  Of course, we don’t give in and still watch the movie while he pretends to do something else but eventually joins us for the whole thing and then says how much he loves it.  He’s crazy!

Birthday Cakes Retrospect – Baking is my hobby, and I love coming up with ideas for birthday cakes.  Cooper’s 2nd birthday cake shaped as a football helmet was not only the most daring design I’ve done, but it was also the most delicious cake!

My Nephew Is Here! – New babies are always a hit, so why wouldn’t the birth of my nephew be one of my favorites?!

Backseat Confessions – Similar to Kid-isms, these are such a perfect snapshot of the kids at that exact time.

Staying Put – It’s very interesting to look back at this point in time when we had really decided we liked our life in Silver Spring and were going to make the best of it.  My how things change!  Now, two years later, we’re getting ready for our first winter in New England – the place we had officially “given up” when this post was written.

Work Hard, Play Hard – This post was about a vacation we took to Deep Creek, MD with some of our dear friends.  It was such a fun trip – not only because we love Deep Creek and we were with friends, but also because it was so needed after working so hard.  Reading the post again brought the feeling of relaxation and fun right back to me.

Gearing Up For A Change – The post that announced we were moving to Rhode Island was bittersweet for me.  The entire move is still bittersweet.  We’re happy in Rhode Island and still feel glad that we moved, but we definitely  miss certain things and certain people.

Whew!  I’m exhausted emotionally and physically after reading through 4 years of posts!  The good part of it all is that I got some ideas for future posts.  I was reminded of feelings I’ve had over the years, including the good and the bad and how I dealt with them then so that I can use clues for how to deal with them now.  And I was able to set some goals for my blog.  First and foremost, I definitely want to do another week of “Being Thankful” during the week of Thanksgiving.  I recently saw a pin on Pinterest about the 30 Day Mom Challenge.  I think I’m up for it.  I think it would be great, especially during the holiday season when life gets hectic and stressful.  So starting December 1, I will start the challenge.  Anyone want to join me?  And my final goal that I’ll share is to blog at least once a week.  It won’t be a problem during November and December when I have so much to talk about, but starting in 2013, I challenge myself to blog at least once a week.  Blogging is usually a release for me, and I think it is good for my soul to write it out and get memories down in blog format.

Finally, thank YOU!  Thanks to those that have been following since the beginning.  Thanks to those of you that are reading today for the first time.  And thanks to everyone in between!  It is your choice to read what you want, and I am grateful that you choose to read this blog.  (I would love to get more comments, so leave me a note when you stop by!)

Cheers to another year of blogging!


A Halloween to Remember November 1, 2012

Filed under: Daily Blog — Robin @ findgoodineveryday @ 9:30 am

It’s November 1st!  Where did October go?  Absolute craziness.  We did manage to close out October with a bang, though, thanks to an awesome Halloween in our very own neighborhood.  To some, that might not seem like such a big deal.  Most families we know live in great neighborhoods where streets get blocked off for safer trick-or-treating or where everyone sits on their front porch handing out candy and chatting with the neighbors while drinking beer or a cocktail in a red plastic cup.  (My dad was the biggest fan of Trick-or-Beer!)  Those all seemed quite idyllic to us considering we never got much action on Halloween in our old Silver Spring neighborhood.  We lived on a somewhat busy street that had only just recently gotten sidewalks.  We were on the edge of two different neighborhoods, and no one but our close neighbors actually came to the door trick-or-treating.  In the past, we usually went to our friends’ neighborhoods so that our kids could get a true Halloween experience.  But this year was different…

First our small little village had a Halloween parade through town this past Saturday.  Everyone gathered at our waterfront park and then paraded through town, stopping at the local shops and businesses who were passing out candy.  The parade ended at our local playground where a band was playing and more treats were being passed out.  Apparently this event had gained popularity enough that people from other towns come all the way just to participate.  But all we had to do was walk to town!

Commander Cody (clone trooper) and our Rainbow Fairy

It was great to feel like we were really part of the village!  We had some Virginia friends in town that came with us, but we also ran into other people we know from our neighborhood and school.  (Always a good sign that you’re settling in!)  We were going to cap off the weekend with the Jack-O-Lantern Spectacular at Roger Williams Zoo but Hurricane Sandy had other plans.  The winds picked up, the rain started pouring, and schools and businesses were closed.  During the storm, though, we managed to do some pumpkin carving.

Cooper with his Sharpie design. Bad mom because I don’t remember what he told me it was supposed to be. Maybe a ninja?

Mason went for the basic Jack-O-Lantern design. Next year, I’ll have to get more creative with our options.

And Jeremy was proud of his Angry Bird pumpkin. His office had a contest, but unfortunately he didn’t win. There’s always next year!

Fortunately, Sandy didn’t do too much damage around us.  We didn’t lose power, and no major trees fell.  We were back in business on Tuesday!  Despite all the reports that the rain would stick around through Thursday, by Wednesday evening, it was all clear for some serious trick-or-treating.

I had bought one bag of pretzels from Target to hand out.  A couple of days after that, I realized I probably needed more, so I got a bag of Reese’s pumpkins.  Then yesterday on my way to work, I got more nervous since the weather was going to cooperate and knew more kids would be out.  I stopped yet again and got another two bags of candy.  Thank goodness!  We are left with 2 bags of pretzels, and I actually think they are from the kids’ trick-or-treating.  I had the perfect amount!  Jeremy took Mason and Cooper out with our neighbor friends while I stayed back to pass out candy.  It was so cool to have lots of knocks on the door.  I had never had so many trick-or-treaters.  And everyone was friendly.  (I considered sitting on the front stoop, but I wouldn’t have been able to read my Kindle in between groups of kids.)  By 7:45, I was almost out of candy, and Jeremy and the kids had been out for an hour.  They returned, we sifted through their loot, and sent them off to bed on a sugar high.  While catching up on our DVR, we got a few more groups of kids whose parents were driving them around.  After someone knocked on our door at 9:45, we decided it was time to turn off the lights and call it a night.  And what a night!  It was so great to have a wonderful Halloween experience in our own small, quaint neighborhood.   And the crazy part?  Our neighbors told us that last night’s activity was light compared to other years!  If that was light, I can’t even imagine next year!  It was a Halloween to remember.

PS – Our thoughts and prayers go out to  those that were not as fortunate during Hurricane Sandy’s wrath.  

It is so hard to comprehend the damage that was done, especially in NY and NJ, and we will be looking for ways to help from afar.